Lifeinstyle STL is a St. Louis party brand for open-minded and swinger couples, running a mixed programme of bar meet-and-greets and full hotel takeovers across Missouri and beyond. It holds no premises of its own: the smaller nights are hosted at a Soulard bar, and the bigger ones take over an entire hotel for a weekend.

Membership comes before attendance. Every guest applies for an account and is verified before booking, and the organiser is blunt about what that means at the door — pre-approved guests only, no door sales, no approvals on site. The stated reason is safety: the team says it screens every new member and turns away fake profiles, and it asks for patience because the application queue is long.

The calendar runs to a recognisable shape. Meet-and-greets are themed, ticketed by the couple, free for single ladies and closed to single men. The Hotwife Party is a hotel takeover where single men attend only by written application and a Zoom orientation. The autumn Halloween weekend runs two nights back to back, with a pool party, speed dating, a haunted room crawl and a costume contest across the Saturday.

The brand also runs a blog and a podcast for people new to the lifestyle, plus a members' forum, chat and groups. Dates are published on its own site and across its Instagram, Facebook, X, TikTok and YouTube accounts. Check there for the next party, and browse our St. Louis guide for the city's other venues and party brands.